I know you might be thinking I'm nuts...but just stay with me for a minute. Have you ever been mad at someone for not say, opening a door for you while you were obviously struggling with your arms full? Or what about when you are sick and the people you expect to be there don't show up? Or maybe you expected someone to come to your defense, but instead they stayed silent? Perhaps a big event happened in your life and the person you care about most didn't do anything to celebrate it with you? What about the person who didn't move over when you were trying to merge onto the freeway?
Oh the possibilities are endless for us to be offended, hurt and even mad at what others DON'T DO. So what DO we do? The first step is recognizing that our expectations of others won't ALWAYS be met. That's just life. Humans are error prone-- even the ones we love the most--they will mess up too, forget our birthday or fail in some other capacity.
We basically need to let others and our loved ones off the hook of "You shoulda, coulda, woulda and now I'm angry," Because it's BEST for US and our relationships. Remember that Satan comes to destroy our relationships too.
John 10:10 The thief (Satan) comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
If we allow ourselves to become offended and mad at these things, then it opens the door for Satan to get a foot hold on us and eventually, if unchecked, our relationship with that person will be so destroyed that it will be lost all together. Satan has won and we lose.
This is the best antidote to offense...
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails..."
Read it again. And again. Oh and maybe once more! Ha ha ha. We can never get enough of what LOVE is, I can't anyway.
I suggest trying to memorize it, to hide it in your heart, so that the Holy Spirit can bring it easily to your mind when you need to be reminded of it. That's why it's beneficial to us to memorize scripture--it's the antidote to the poison of Satan and our own wretched ways.
Now I'm not guaranteeing that people won't ever fail you again, but instead sharing the tool (Scriptures) that have helped me the most with being offended. As you can probably tell, I used to struggle with being offended like ONE MILLION times a day by people I didn't even know, to my own hubby. And trust me, you never get anything good out of being offended all the doodle-a-la-day. Instead, exclaim loudly, "I'm NOT easily offended." And smile your biggest, most care-free smile you can dream up. The tricky part is meaning it. But keep 1 Corinthians 13 handy and you will be able to be sincere in no time!
I'm praying God will give you more of His grace, His love and His eyes to see others and that His truth sinks deep in your heart and begins to heal any old offenses that have caused you hurt or harm.
Huge love to you friend!