Sunday, December 14, 2014

Set your mind and keep it set.


Whether you are facing relationship, health, future or whatever fears that may be lurking around trying to steal your joy...consider this:

Jeremiah 29:11" For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

This is what God has ALREADY said about you. No matter what your circumstances look like at this moment, it doesn't mean that it will be your future too. God is bigger than anything we will ever face and He will give us the grace to get through it all. It's not going to be easy most times, as easy doesn't work well for most things. It's the hard work that gets a job done, it's hard work that produces excellence, and it's hard work to keep a hold of your thought life! Most everything we do, starts with a thought. If you are going to get well, start with THINKING you are going to get well. Say it out loud, "I'm getting better every day in every way, I'm healthy, I'm strong, I'm energetic!" If you need healing in a relationship, declare it, "My relationship is getting better and better with "so and so" Or if you need help with eating well and getting over an eating disorder, start by saying "I can eat healthy food and allow it to nourish and energize my body, I love my myself and I'm not going to treat it badly." Maybe you need help in your finances, start saying "I make wise money choices, I tithe 10% to the Lord, I save and I spend what I need." 

Our thoughts are so powerful that Proverbs 23:7 says, "For as he thinks in his heart, so is he." Stop focusing and cementing in the negative, start speaking what you want to happen, speak life over whatever your challenge is. Remember that that Devil is out to steal your joy because he knows it's our strength. Nehemia 8:10 "And be not grieved and depressed, for the joy of the Lord is your strength and stronghold." Hold on to your JOY no matter what. It is where your strength is found. This is no small task, I know. Especially if you have debilitating physical pain, it's the very last thing you will feel like trying to have...joy. But pray and ask God for it, ask him how to get a hold of it and keep it. He will direct your steps for what is best for you and your circumstances.  I've found that starting with what I can be thankful for first, then leads me to joy.

I want you to keep fighting for your life, it's worth it. The enemy wants you to tire out and give up. But refuse, keep pressing in and pushing forward. You are not alone, the Lord says He will never leave us or forsake us. If it's only you and God, you are still the majority!

And I know that I'm praying for each person who reads these simple words, that you are strengthened in your inner man or woman, for joy to spring forth from your spirit, for healing of disease, old wounds, new wounds, and all the pains that can plague us in this life. Be made well and be whole in Jesus' Name!

I'm sending a huge hug to your right now. Keep going, it's going to get better. This is only a season and it will pass! Don't give up, your break through, your healing, your restoration,  your relationship reconciled, your financial stability is on it's way! I believe it! Get into agreement with me about the good future God has for you! And me!

Your future is so bright, I need to wear sunglasses! Ha ha ha!

Huge love,
Tiffany

PS: my 2.5 year old, Audrey took this photo. Ha ha!

Sunday, December 7, 2014

Where did you go? And Lyme Disease!

Hi everyone...it's been a long time since I wrote a post. Here's a little update on what's been going on since I've been blog MIA (missing in action)! Ha ha!

As some of you know, I started getting sicker and sicker (and didn't hardly blog anymore) and last November I found out that I had Lyme Disease. You typically get it from a tick bite, but I can't remember getting bite. And sometimes you get a bulls eye type rash, which I never noticed getting, if at all. So all the normal clues I might have had, I really didn't get!

It all started with an episode of my heart racing, pounding, shortness of breath, and shaking (or tremors). This started gradually and then was happening all the dilly-a-la-day! Then it would wake me up in the middle of the night and more than once I went to the ER. I had no idea what was happening and it really scared me. Then I started to feel like I was going to pass out when I was driving. So I stopped driving by myself as I didn't want to pass out and have my babies in the car without a conscious mommy.  And I had terrible headaches, I couldn't concentrate, terrible stiff neck's that would last for two weeks, I started saying the wrong word for things, I would wake up drenched in sweat (night sweats), couldn't sleep at all--it was like adrenaline was pumping full force at 3am, I was beyond exhausted and then I had all sorts of gastrointestinal issues. And my poor heart hurt all the time, and still hurts but I have some days when it's better.

After seeing four different Cardiologists, one who told me to get a hobby. One pulmonologist, gastroenterologist, neurologist, six different general practitioners, I was referred to a doctor by a sweet lady at my church to an integrative doctor. I went there, and the main doctor didn't offer any insights or real help. But on a scheduling issue, or more accurately Divine intervention, I saw the naturopathic doctor there. She was an answer to prayer. After seeing me for a few months she mentioned that I might have Lyme Disease. I was very skeptical. But after no help and just getting worse and worse, I felt that life was leaving my body and I wouldn't make it even one more day. I was praying constantly! I couldn't even walk out in the yard with out feeling like I was going to pass out or stand for more than a few minutes. So I did the blood tests for it. It was extremely expensive and no insurance covers it, of course. It was positive for Lyme (Borrelia burgdorferi), and co-infections of Babesiosis, and a lung infection called chlamydia pneumoniae.

That pretty much brings you up to date! Yuck! Ha ha ha! So I've been on herbal (Samento and Banderol) and homeopathic things (A-Bab and A-Bart) , detox (by Body Anew) and antibiotics, amoxicillin, Doxyclycine, Plaquenil, and anti-malaria medicine that treats the Babesiosis like Malarone and Mepron. And a slew of vitamins, and of course I'm gluten free and try not to eat much sugar but that is a challenge unto itself. Why is gluten and sugar so tasty?!

All this to say, I'm doing better than I was. I think I've made about a 30% improvement, but I still have a ways to go. I'm driving again and not feeling faint (only once and a while) and I can walk to my mailbox and even do the grocery shopping again, which I had to give over to Byron to do more than I would like (He has a terrible time choosing "good" fruits and vegetables! Brings the ones with brown spots home! Ha ha!) And I've got my heart set on more babies, so I really want to get better and have them! So that's been my life in a icky nutshell! Ha ha! So if you are sick and struggling with something, I UNDERSTAND! I'm a sympathetic ear if you need one. And, if you are sick with anything, please tell me and I will pray for you.

Galations 6:2 Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.

I'm praying for you right now, that every eye that reads this or ear that hears it will be healed in Jesus Name. Lord, send forth your Word and heal every need, every sickness, every pain, in Jesus Name. Even if you can't comment or feel comfortable sharing it with me, I pray you are healed now! Amen!  

Remember, this too shall PASS! As my grandma used to say, "In the Bible, things came to PASS, not to stay!"

Huge love to you friends!

Tiffany
PS: I already decided I'm going to get better, you do the same. Make up your mind about it, and keep re-making up your mind about it if you start to come undone about it. That's what I have to do as sickness is extremely discouraging, depressing and exhausting. But God is stronger than all of those and Jesus died to give us life, forgiveness and healing.


Psalm 103:3 (NLT)
He forgives all my sins and heals all my diseases.



Sunday, June 23, 2013

Pray for your spouse, even if you haven't met them yet.


(Kandee and I when we are about 13 and 15)
When I was about 13, I went to a Christian teen convention in L.A where I learned something that would change my future. At the conference, there was main worship and then a few different classes you could take on relationships, marriage, growing closer to God and on and on. But the one thing that really got my attention was in the class on preparing for marriage one day. The speaker, taught about PRAYING for your future spouse. I thought this was kind of crazy since I had no idea who I would marry at the time. But God did, and I could pray to God for this Mr. X and God would see to it that what I asked for would be done if it was according to His will.



So off I went, praying for my future husband whenever I remembered to do it. I prayed for God to keep him safe, for God to guide him in his life.

Here's a few examples of areas you might want to cover in prayer:
  • Pray for is heart to be toward God
  • For his family, that they would be good parents and love him well
  • For God to guide his steps
  • For him to wait to have sex until you are married
  • For blessing over him and God's will to be done in his life
  • For Favor with God and then others
  • For wisdom from God
  • For him to love you as Christ loves the church (us- willing to die for us so that we may live)
  • For him to love God first, you second and then everything else
  • For him not to fall into addiction of drugs, alcohol and pornography
  • For him to be intelligent, smart to navigate life well
  • For his health, financial prosperity, spiritual growth etc.
This is just a starting point, feel free to add or change as you feel lead by the Spirit of God. If you still don't know what to pray, ask God to show you areas to pray for.

Are you wondering how my prayers turned out? Well, I'll tell you! Ha ha ha, even if you're not wondering! 

My faceless, nameless shadow of who I would marry--who received all of my prayers...Byron Myers. How delighted I was to hear of how different his life had been from most of the boys I grew up with. He didn't do drugs, drink or any of the other trouble starting habits that most guys I knew had. He had wisdom beyond his 23 years (that's how old he was when we met) and heart that had been prepared by God.

I know that the few desires I mentioned to God over the years had been answered, I had flesh and blood proof, and he was adorable. Still is. Ha ha ha! He is really my very own miracle, because as I dated through my teen years and into college--through breakups and heartache, I thought he might not even exist. But here he is, and right now he is playing with our precious little girls.

(Byron helping Audrey walk at Disneyland last week, with Sydney leading the way!)


See? It will all be okay. Don't be anxious and worry. God tells us this.

Philippians 4:6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.

Pray for your future spouse EVERY time you start to get anxious. AND remember...

Matthew 6:33 "But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you." 

Your job is to keep God first in your life, above all else. And to NOT worry about your life. God is at work on your behalf. Think about that for a minute, the God who formed the foundations of the earth, who holds the world together with His Word, is working all things out for the GOOD of those who love Him. Now take a deep breath, it's all being handled, by God Himself. Wow.



Huge hugs and may God bless you and your future spouse--or if you already married, my He bless your marriage richly!

Tiffany  

Sunday, June 16, 2013

The number #1 key to having a successful relationship



The number one key to having a successful relationship is not half as much about the OTHER person as we ALL have been told. I know this sounds WAY out there, but just keep reading...let me explain.

Most women have been "told" by the world that a "soul-mate" (read my other post on Soul Mates: http://hugelove.blogspot.com/2012/03/have-you-ever-heard-of-people-looking.html ) will be our Knight in Shining armor, love us perfectly, make us their highest priority, and our every emotional need will be filled by them, that we will never feel lonely, unloved, ugly or abandoned again--IF we have the RIGHT guy. And if you feel any of those negative feelings, then you just need to find the next guy and the next guy and the next guy...which can go on to infinity.

This is a horrible lie perpetuated by every "romantic comedy," tv, books and magazines out there. If you tell a lie to someone over and over again, they will eventually start to believe it. And that is what has happened to most women, we've been set up by the world to attain what is not human, but rather spiritual perfection and perfect love from an insanely flawed man. To which is absolutely impossible.
Like finding a brand new Range Rover for $2.00. Not gonna happen.

So what do we need to do?  We women, first need something literally OUT OF THIS WORLD. We all need to allow our hearts, mind and spirit to be made complete in Jesus, the King of kings.  This is the rightful place of God, our Rock that is higher than high. After all, He has already called us his bride.

Look in Isaiah 62:5, "As a young man marries a young woman, so will your Builder marry you; as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride, so will your God rejoice over you."

Every desire of your heart can be met by God Himself, because He can see your heart. No human man can do this. No human man can understand you fully, but God does, He put you together just as you are.

Jeremiah 1:5 "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart;"
No one on earth knows you as complete and whole as God does. No one loves you as sweetly as God does. Why then should we expect this deep of "knowing"and complete loving from anyone less than God Himself? It is only God who can fill our hearts, never abandon us, be ever-present, ever listening, constant lover.

And yes, God DOES have a place for a flesh and blood, human man in our lives. Otherwise God wouldn't have made both, man and women. Man is supposed to be a shadow of what Christ is to the Church, willing to love so well, that he would die so that she may live. The man HAS a place, but it's our fault for putting him where only God can be. If we set a man to be our god, we will be sorely disappointed, hurt or worse.

By getting our sustaining love, perfect companionship, supernatural intervention into our lives from God Himself, we then can love a man, appropriately. He can then be entirely human, with faults, errors and misunderstanding and still be a great husband.

Of course I'm NOT saying that a man can treat you any old way HE thinks best. Some men are truly terrible and need to be stayed away from. Example, is he is physically violent. You need to get away and stay away.

So first, you need to accept Jesus as the lover of your soul. He comes first, always. Then, you need to pray to God and ask Him to direct you to the right human man. This also means you must keep your head in the game so to speak, and I mean  that you need to find a man that has a relationship with God himself, there is no need to have any relationship with a guy who has no relationship with God.

Then, you will both have a firm foundation, which is God, to build YOUR romantic relationship upon. And when troubles come, you can both come together to seek God for His help, healing, guidance, wisdom, blessing or whatever challenge you both might be facing.

With God has your common denominator, you have stability that will out last this lifetime. Without God, a relationship is like a two legged stool, it's nearly impossible to keep it up right. Wouldn't you rather have a three legged stool? Now that is a stool that can bear and incredible amount of weight and pressure and not break apart.

Remember, God first, then your man, equals a successful and healthy marriage...like the ones in the romantic comedies. Ha ha ha!

Huge love, your girl,

Tiffany

PS: this takes major pressure off of your relationship, which is always a good thing!

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Sunday, June 9, 2013

Why not be wronged? WHAT?!?!



Now here's where one of my deep loves with God is anchored-- that His Word runs counter to everything that the world claims to be right.

Example, worldly advice would say if someone hurts you, then hurt them back, plus interest. Or maybe you have heard people say, "I'm nice until you piss me off" this is another type of worldly attitude where people live their lives with a constant shallow threat so that others won't wrong them. And by the way, it never works--I've tried it! Ha ha ha!

No matter how many threats someone makes, or how many times they say "Don't mess with me" it ALWAYS fails. Those people will be hurt again, they will be wronged again and it's all regardless of the "tough" facade that are hoping to put on.

But can you blame us? Who WANTS to be wronged, defrauded and hurt? Nobody I know!

But here's where God's wisdom gives us the simple and BEST way out of the insanity of trying to be the scariest, baddest, toughest person to ever live.

We find it in Paul's first letter to the Corinthians, chapter 6:

"...Why not rather be wronged? Why not rather be defrauded?"

When I read this,  I was so stunned that I had to re-read it. Ha ha ha. So foreign to my thoughts, yet familiar to my heart, like a long lost relative. I knew it immediately to be true. Some people say "it rang true in my heart." And this did. And does.

Did you know that there are 613 commandments in the Torah, the first five books of the Bible? And yet, Jesus gave us yet one more.

In John 13:34, "A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another." 

Even if someone does something hurtful, wrong or terrible to you, we need to pray for them, and not hate them. We need to ask God to bless them in their life, as we don't know what all they have endured which has lead them to behave has they are.

Now I believe that people who have done crimes and terrible acts against others should be taken off of the streets so that they won't continue do to those things. And there is always the situation where a person needs to get physically away from someone who is harming them. 

But the reminder I am hoping to give you and me included, is that we don't have to live all tensed and braced for impact with little shifting eyes trying to see who might be coming for us! Ha ha ha! God says we can live free of that fear. If someone wrongs you, leave it to God to restore if He sees that you need it restored. If God can hold the world to together with His Word, then certainly he can restore you after you have had a loss of any kind. 

Go and live boldly. Free from the fears of being taken advantage of, hurt or wronged. And remember that nothing in your life comes to your life without the express approval of God. As Dr. Stanley once put it, "view everything as coming from God." All working to bring out a consistent and saintly spirit within us.

Philippians 1:6
And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.


God bless your socks off friend!

Huge love,

Tiffany

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